SLIP & ETHICS: Graduated Intervention for AI Emotional Companions

AI emotional companions face a safety-rapport paradox: restrictive safeguards can damage supportive alliance, while permissive systems risk user harm. We present SLIP (Staged Layers of Intervention Protocol), a four-stage graduated methodology deriving interventions (none, soft, hard) from structured qualitative indicators -- affect intensity (a) and narrative dynamism (m) -- alongside ETHICS (Emergent Taxonomy for Human-AI Interaction Context Signals), a "signals not labels" taxonomy. An evaluation combining a small-scale production deployment (N=68 entries, 10 users, 10 weeks) with a synthetic persona battery (N=91, 5 behavioral-risk profiles) achieved 0% false positives for the flow persona and showed expected escalation patterns in crisis-oriented personas. However, initial results showed that 8 consecutive days of high-energy elevation produced zero interventions (0/8), exposing a boundary where the "do not pathologize" principle conflicts with safety. A subsequent three-model stress test demonstrated that increased model capability improves detection from 0/8 to 6/8 while preserving 0/10 flow false positives in the largest model. Read as preliminary, these findings position graduated intervention as a design direction for navigating -- not resolving -- the safety-rapport tension in affective computing.